Best friends can be hard to come by. They can come and go. They can be lifelong or just for a fleeting moment. It depends, really.
It is possible to have more than one best friend. For me, I have about five. That might seem like a lot, but they all have that one thing that makes them my best friends. Some know each other, some know of each other and some don't even know the other exists. That's why I enjoy having all of these friends. Some people grow up thinking you have to have this core group that defines who your friends are for the rest of your life, but that's not true at all.
I've lost friends over time. From some of my own doing, and some from theirs, and some simply because it just fizzled out and didn't fit our lifestyles anymore. And that's okay; all of that is okay. I think it's safe to say when you lose a friend, it can almost be harder than a break-up with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
You expect that person to be your ride or die and see every part of you and still love you no matter what because they are your friend, but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way because life happens.
But I still care for all of those people I've lost. There's this saying that goes, "Be careful who you make memories with because those can last a lifetime." I forget where I saw it, or who even said it. But I do know one thing: the people I've lost as friends? No matter what happened with any of them, we all still have those amazing memories to look back on.
In middle school, I had this one friend. And she was a blessing. We don't talk anymore. I don't think I actually ever had a class with her in high school or even the same lunch shift. But I remember watching horror movies in my basement with my grandma and her and we would scream at the top of our lungs while my grandma was so confused as to what was happening in the movie she didn't even have time to be scared. Or when that friend tried to push me down the stairs as a joke and I actually ended up falling on a paint tray and sliding the whole way down my staircase.
In high school, I had a ton of best friends that I lost. I got very into journalism and quit the marching band, which was fine, but then of course our friendships had a hard time lasting because we were all always doing our own thing after school. My one high school best friend was the funniest person that will probably ever walk this planet. One day her mom went to order us a pizza, and when we got to Dominos they told us that there was no order under her name, so she called the one that was a town over from us, and she couldn't find the order either. We later found out that her mom actually had placed the order at a Dominos in RHODE ISLAND!!! And we live in MARYLAND! It was so funny, none of us could stop laughing. But also we were hungry, so the laughter subsided when we realized we actually needed food.
When I finally got to college, I met so many different people. My freshman year best friends? We aren't friends anymore, but that will never mean I won't cherish the memories we had. My one friend, who was my ride or die, lived right across the hall from me. And every time there was this light tap on the door, I knew it was her asking to go to the market to go get a tuna melt together. Boy did we love tuna... until she got food poisoning from, most likely, the dining hall's tuna. My other friend and I were super close too. This friend and I took Spanish 3 together, and one day we had to partner up and verbally respond to the prompt on the board. If I'm being honest here, I am terrible at Spanish. The absolute worst. To this day I have no idea what the prompt said, but I do remember pretty much saying, "I will eat a Potbelly's sandwich by Abraham Lincoln's memorial after I graduate." First of all, what even? Second of all, it was probably the funniest thing to us at the time, we laughed about it for the rest of the week.
The thing is, while I'm not friends with the people I was in the past, at the time, they were some of my best friends, and we had some awesome memories together. Time will never change that. You can't just forget the memories you made with someone, they're kind of just locked up in your head; whether they are in the back or not, they're there. And that's awesome. Because no matter what happens with anyone, you can't forget that at one point in time, you guys did share some good times together. Why else would you have been friends?
All the friends I have now are some of the best friends I could possibly ever imagine. Sure we get annoyed or have disagreements, what friends don't? And the memories we have are amazing too. Like waiting for 3 hours for a Papa John's pizza that never showed up. I apparently have a pizza curse. But the good thing about these friends is, right now, I don't have to worry about looking back and missing those times. Because we're still creating more.
So maybe this isn't the typical "National BFF Day" post or even one that you were expecting. But it's important to realize, that even the friends you have now if they aren't the same as the ones you had before, you can still enjoy the memories you had with your old best friends.